Positive Affirmations Help!
I tend to over think ALOT! Simple things, every day things, whatever it is…..I will turn a little hill into a mountain. Almost even to the point that I would stop myself from doing things because I overthought them so much. I would tell myself things like “It won’t work”, “Whats the point”, “I don’t know how”, “Everyone hates you”, “Your ugly”, etc. I stopped myself from doing so many things in life! There would be days I wouldn’t even go to school because I thought “whats the point, I’m a screw up anyways”. And I wasn’t going to continue to let this thinking go on into my adult life! Believe me it didn’t change over night, but I started the process!
Something changed within me. I started to have more confidence. I started to learn how to be scared & do it anyways. I started to grow. I started to see the change I had always “wished” for. I started to come to terms with my past and see all the good that came out of it! (that was a hard one for me to see the good in) But in time positive affirmations, changing my thinking, and coming to terms with my past is what helped me become the person I am today!
Sometimes the thing that is crippling us the most is what we need to do, in order to grow and become the person we want to be. Wishing doesn’t get us anywhere, action does. We all have this vision in our minds of who we want to be or become but in order to get there we have to step out of our comfort zones. We have to make the change. Don’t let your mind tell you that you cant do something or that your going to fail because then your already telling your self conscious that your not going to make it. Tell yourself you CAN do it! You WILL be amazing!! That you WILL succeed!! If I make a mistake, then learn from it and KEEP going!!
Personal development might seem cheesy at the beginning I wont lie. When I started doing them, I’ll be honest, I didn’t totally believe everything I was telling myself but over time something started to change! How? Because positive affirmations are telling your mind that your taking responsibility for change to happen in your life. This maybe easier for some or harder. For me, I had already come to terms with my past so I could tell myself positive affirmations in the mirror while I was brushing my teeth and my conscious mind was open to the change. But for some, if your subconscious mind or your inner critic is still very loud, you know the one that tells you your not good enough, if you TRULY do believe that, then you have deeply-ingrained beliefs that aren’t serving you and these affirmations will never help until you can change those negative beliefs. I once heard someone say the biggest mistake you can make with positive affirmations is slapping them on top of negative beliefs and that has stuck with me for the longest time. It was almost like a “light bulb” moment when I heard this!
So if you have these deeply ingrained thoughts then you may need to find a quite place to sit, pick ONE positive affirmation, repeat it to yourself, observe your thoughts; do you feel any resistance? why? really sit and think WHY am I feeling this way? Allow your thoughts to flow, don’t resist the negative feelings because when you get to the root reason of why, then over time you start to come to terms with them and they seem to just float away on their own. Why does the positive affirmation your telling yourself feel false? Really dig deep! Did a kid at school tell you you weren’t good enough? Did you have a verbal abusive parent or significant other? The past hurts sometimes. Lets not sugar coat it but it hurts worse when you hang onto it. Get that same positive affirmation and start to make a list (no matter how small or big) of all the reasons WHY its true! It doesn’t have to be from the past, it can be from that day! Make a game out of it! How many moments were there in the day that validate the affirmation? They will start to come easier to you as you start to let go of your inner critic, make peace with the past, and start to believe that you are an amazing person!
I promise you, if you look yourself in the mirror everyday & tell yourself nothing but positive affirmations, then you will eventually start to believe them & things will start changing in your life for the better! Give it a try for 30 days & I promise you, you will start to get where you want to be mentally! Don’t stop at day thirty though! This is something that you should do everyday for the rest of your life because lets be honest, we all have them days where we don’t think the best about ourselves. I’ve been coming to terms with my past and telling myself positive affirmations for years now! It’s a journey, not a destination.
Pass this on to your children even! Every morning I have my daughter look herself in the mirror and say three positive things about herself! And you know what I saw? On the first day, she wouldn’t even look at herself in the mirror! And she was six years old!! I was in shock! That a six year old baby could already have self conflicting issues but I guess that’s the society we live in today. But by day fifteen, she still thought it was weird but would finally look at herself in that mirror! By day thirty and on, we both are standing in the mirror, looking at ourselves with our heads held high and doing it with confidence!!
Some areas that you may need help in is self love (that was a huge one for me), fear, anxiety, etc. Whatever it is that YOU need help in, I highly suggest changing your THINKING to see the POSITIVE, & not the negatives. This takes time and a little will power but the end outcome is so worth it!
Maybe it’s a day you just don’t want to get out of bed, a person you cut you off in traffic on the way to work, its that time of the month, or maybe it runs much deeper than that but either way DON’T talk down to yourself or marinate on them negative thoughts. And if it starts to happen, INSTANTLY start telling yourself positive affirmations, write three things down on a piece of paper that you love about yourself, just anything to distract your mind from talking down on yourself. So here are a few quick pick-me-uppers that I use on the daily. Book mark this post to come back to, write them on post it notes & stick them all over your house where you will see them everyday, print them out on the computer, whatever it takes to remind yourself how amazing you really are!
My past does NOT define my future
Say yes & figure it out later
Stop & breath 5 long breaths
Everything will be okay
You cant control anything but yourself
I am perfect just the way I am
I am worthy of love
How others think of me does not define me
I am in control of how I react to situations
I am beautiful
I will succeed today
I do not need the approval of others to feel happy
My imperfections make me unique
I am strong
I can accomplish anything as long as I never give up
I have the power to make anything happen
Fear does not define me
I will not compare myself to others
Everyone's journey is different
A mistake is a lesson learned, not to dwell on it but to learn from it
Self love is not being selfish
Little steps towards my goal equals big accomplishments
Let go of all negative self talk
I do not live to please others
The only approval I'll ever need is mine
Today will be a good day because I choose for it to be
I am enough
I am in control of my thoughts
I give myself permission to be who I am and not who someone wants me to be
Love yourself instead of loving the idea of other people loving you
Your a diamond already babe, now it's time to start shinning like one!
XOXO,
Rio